Divorce is a painful process. From the moment you utter the word right through to the final signature, there is nothing pleasant about it. Even when divorce is the most reasonable decision to make, it can still get complicated, depressing, and downright ugly.
Most people do not prepare themselves adequately for the turmoil a divorce can cause. Yes, you can prepare yourself by gathering all the necessary papers to legally get a divorce through the courts in an orderly fashion. But the paperwork is just one step. Even before you start gathering paperwork, you must go through some very difficult times. Simply making the decision to divorce takes thoughtful examination of everything involved in the physical and emotional well-being of your family.
Once you've approached the subject of divorce, you still have to prepare yourself and your family for the next steps. Can you jump right to getting your paperwork together? Not yet.
What about telling your children? What will they need from you? How will ending your marriage affect their lives? How will you support yourself? How will you face your family and friends? How will you recover from the divorce yourself? How will you face your ex-spouse again when dealing with the kids? What if you have to pay child support? Will you ever get to see your kids again? Can your spouse take everything and leave you penniless?
Surviving a divorce takes more than just dividing up the furniture and bank accounts; it takes preparing yourself and your children for what's to come. Collaborative divorce recognizes that you and your spouse will be connected by your children for many years to come.
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